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When the se changes the meaning

The same verb twice: esquecer takes an object, esquecer-se takes a preposition.

A number of verbs mean something different with se than without. Lembrar is « to remind »; lembrar-se de is « to remember ». English marks that pair with two separate verbs, so the idea is familiar; what is new is that here it is the same word twice.

The commonest: ir (to go) against ir-se embora (to leave); encontrar (to find) against encontrar-se (to meet); esquecer (to forget) against esquecer-se de (to forget); parecer (to seem) against parecer-se com (to look like).

That third pair is the useful one, because both members mean « to forget » and they build the sentence differently. Esqueci o guarda-chuva takes a direct object, exactly like English. Esqueci-me do guarda-chuva takes the pronoun and a preposition. Both are correct; what is wrong is half of each.

With many of these the preposition is part of the meaning: lembrar-se de, esquecer-se de, queixar-se de, rir-se de, parecer-se com. And three verbs exist almost only with se: queixar-se (to complain), arrepender-se (to regret), atrever-se (to dare).

Die Form

to go / to leaveir / ir-se embora
to remind / to rememberlembrar / lembrar-se de
to find / to meetencontrar / encontrar-se
to forget / to forgetesquecer / esquecer-se de
to seem / to look likeparecer / parecer-se com
to complain aboutqueixar-se de

Die Regeln im Einzelnen

  1. With se the meaning changes.

    Vou-me embora, está a ficar tarde.I am off, it is getting late.

  2. The preposition belongs with it.

    Não me lembro do nome dele.I do not remember his name.

  3. encontrar-se means to meet.

    Encontrámo-nos à porta do cinema.We met outside the cinema.

  4. A few exist only with se.

    Ele queixa-se sempre do trânsito.He is always complaining about the traffic.

Woran man es erkennt

  • ir-se embora
  • lembrar-se de
  • esquecer-se de
  • queixar-se de

Beispielsätze

Esqueci-me completamente da reunião.I completely forgot the meeting.

Ela parece-se muito com a mãe.She looks very like her mother.

Vamo-nos embora antes que comece a chover.Let us go before it starts raining.

Arrependi-me de ter dito aquilo.I regretted having said that.

Die typisch deutsche Falle

Aufgepasst

Esquecer and esquecer-se de both mean « to forget » and build the sentence differently: esqueci o guarda-chuva with no preposition, esqueci-me do guarda-chuva with one. Both are right — the mixture of the two is not.

Falsch:Esqueci-me o guarda-chuva em casa.
Richtig:Esqueci-me do guarda-chuva em casa.

With se a preposition nearly always comes too.

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